but Elder Bednar says it much nicer than I do:
“As we visit with young adults all over the church they often will ask – what are the characteristics I should look for in a future spouse? – as though they have some checklist… And I rather forcefully say to them – you are so arrogant to think that you are some catch and that you want someone else who has these things for you! If you found somebody who had these characteristics that you’re looking for, what makes you think they’d want to marry you?
The “list” is not for evaluating someone else – the list is for you and what you need to become. And so if there are three primary characteristics that you hope to find in an eternal companion, than those are the three things you ought to be working to become. Then you will be attractive to someone who has those things… you’re not on a shopping spree looking for the greatest value with a series of characteristics. You become what you hope your spouse will be and you’ll have a greater likelihood of finding that person.’”
- Elder David A. Bednar
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I have a friend with a checklist. He wants a girl who will travel all over the world with him and who will be good at making speeches in front of big audiences. He says the ambition of being a wife and mother is not enough...he wants her to strongly desire to change the world. I'd love to nicely send him this quote, but he stopped talking to me after I told him he was arrogant.
I like it I like it! And I consider myself sufficiently rebuked. I have a list of 75 qualities I would LOVE if my husband had. But I have a big ol' list for me too! So does that make me not as arrogant? No? Dang.
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